Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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Mr & Mrs FREUD: in love ... but still playing psychological games
When did you start writing?
I started writing my first book at 16, filled with excitement and dreams of becoming a writer. But as the realization dawned that I couldn’t publish it, the idea of being a writer slipped away. I abandoned it, convinced that dream was no longer for me. Twenty years later, I picked up the pen again, believing this time would be different, that I would finally succeed. But once more, I faced failure, unable to achieve the success I had been chasing.
When did you start writing, again?
Another five years passed before I found myself writing again, but this time it wasn’t for success—it was for me. Writing had become my therapy, a process I came to define as “self-therapy.” I began analyzing and exploring strange thoughts and ideas, many of which were deeply connected to my own soul. In doing so, I completely forgot about the pursuit of success. Instead, I found myself simply writing, spilling my thoughts into essays. I wasn’t a writer in the traditional sense, nor a poet. Maybe I had become what people call an essayist, though I struggled to fully embrace that title.
I wasn’t a poet, because I couldn’t craft poetry in its true form. But I was still expressing myself in a way that felt close to poetry, letting my thoughts flow. I wasn’t exactly a writer either, as I lacked the ability to stick with one subject for too long. And yet, I wasn’t entirely an essayist. I was just an ordinary person, perhaps better described as a thinker. I was analyzing, reflecting, and defining my life through this process I called self-therapy. Through writing, I began to understand life, finding clarity in the paths I needed to follow.
Without even realizing it, I had written and published dozens of books. I’m still not sure how it happened, how I managed to succeed in something I had long given up on. Today, I can confidently recommend writing as therapy. It’s a simple, yet powerful way to understand who we are, and more importantly, to heal our souls. For me, writing has become a never-ending journey, one that will likely continue for the rest of my life. And for that, I am grateful. I continue my philosophical exploration, still unsure whether I am a writer, essayist, or something else entirely. But one thing I do know: I am on a good path.
In general, what do you write your books about?
I’ve written many books about love—about the beauty of being in love, but also about the darker side, the frustration and disillusionment that sometimes comes with it. There were moments when I even swore I’d never write about love again. But, inevitably, I always found myself drawn back to it.
After publishing around twenty books of love essays, I had a serious heart-to-heart with myself. I promised once again that I’d move on, that I’d explore other themes. But deep down, I knew the truth: I couldn't stay away from it.
There’s something about the concept of love that captivates me, a complexity that feels inexhaustible. Whether it’s the joy, the pain, or the uncertainty, I realized I’m endlessly fascinated by it. Love is messy, unpredictable, and it shapes us in ways we often can’t see until we reflect on it. And, despite my best efforts to turn away, I’ve come to embrace the fact that love—its beauty, its contradictions, and everything in between—will always be at the heart of what I write.
It’s not just the feeling of being in love that draws me in, but the entire spectrum of emotions tied to it. Love challenges us, exposes our vulnerabilities, and sometimes, even breaks us. Yet, it’s still something we crave, something we chase. And that, in itself, makes it worth writing about. So no matter how many times I’ve promised myself to stop, I keep coming back to it. Because I’ve realized one thing: I just love the concept of love.
Tell me about your book?
Mr & Mrs FREUD: In Love... But Still Playing Psychological Games is the title.
Step into the minds of one of history’s most intriguing couples in Mr & Mrs FREUD: In Love... But Still Playing Psychological Games. This captivating exploration dives deep into the complex dynamics between Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, and his equally fascinating partner. Through the lens of their relationship, the book unravels the intricate psychological games that play out between lovers, blending intellectual insight with raw emotion.
In love, but never free from the complexities of the mind, Mr. and Mrs. Freud’s relationship is a study in both passion and intellect—where love meets analysis, and every interaction is a reflection of the deeper workings of the human psyche.
Join this riveting journey into their inner worlds, where affection and intellect collide, and see how even the pioneers of psychology couldn’t escape the emotional complexities that define all human relationships.
What advice would you recommend to other writers?
And if there is one thing I would dare to recommend to others, it’s to do what I’m doing today—write. It doesn’t have to be for anyone else but yourself. It can be a path to healing, understanding, and ultimately, self-discovery.
What drives you as a writer?
As a writer, I'm driven by the paradox of love—the way it can uplift us yet simultaneously unravel everything we hold dear. Even though I’ve come to understand that love is often illusory and can sometimes shatter our souls beyond repair, I continue to explore it. What fascinates me isn’t just the idea of love, but the behaviors that arise when two people, clearly in love, begin to destroy what they’ve built. Why do couples, even when the love between them is unmistakable, engage in such self-sabotaging behaviors? What drives them to play these psychological games that seem so senseless, even when they know better?
What intrigues you the most?
What intrigues me most is observing even the most intelligent individuals—people who should, theoretically, understand the complexities of human behavior—make foolish choices in the name of love. It’s the paradox of psychology itself. I’ve often found myself comparing these people to Mr. and Mrs. Freud, practicing the same nonsensical behaviors they should easily avoid. But why? That’s the question I keep coming back to. I don’t know if I’ll ever truly find an answer, but I’m compelled to keep searching, analyzing, and writing about it.
What's next for you?
I’ll continue diving deeper into the subject of love, perhaps without ever reaching a definitive conclusion, but always with the same curiosity and passion. The mystery of love intrigues me, and I find myself captivated by the idea that understanding it fully may be as elusive as chasing the horizon. It might be ridiculous, but I allow myself the freedom to be addicted to this pursuit, to explore love’s many contradictions and complexities, and to write about them in the hope that one day, I might get closer to understanding why we do the things we do when we're in love.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Adrian Gabriel Dumitru is a philosophical essayist whose works explore the complexities of love, life, and human behavior. His writing spans themes like spirituality, motivation, and the contradictory perceptions that define our experiences. Dumitru’s essays reflect his deep introspection, often turning inward to analyze personal growth, relationships, and the struggle for self-understanding. Known for his profound contemplations on love, he continues to explore the mysteries of human emotions in his work, blending personal insight with universal truths.
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