DR. MEL'S MESSAGE - From my novels to my other projects, no telling what you will read. This is the only place you will get to read about how I developed a screenplay into a novel and what is the driving force. I will talk about many things from films to books to acting to producing. It really will depend on where my mind takes me. I hope you will join me on this journey.
Close your eyes and picture your ideal relationship, from your first word to each other to every intimate moment. Are you smiling? Is your heart smiling? Now picture your current relationship. Did your expression change? Did your lips twist, or did your eyebrows twitch? Did your emotions change? We all have a vision of our ideal relationship or marriage. However, a vision without a plan is just a dream, a fantasy. In reality, a good relationship takes work, empathy, grace, forgiveness and, listening, hearing. By acknowledging that we may have no earthly idea of how our partner thinks, feels, or what drives them and that the only one who is an expert on our partner is our partner. To honestly know our partners, they must allow themselves to be known to us. Easier said than done.
I know for a fact what it takes to have an ideal marriage -- I've been married for forty years and loving every minute of it. Today, over half of all marriages end in divorce. My theory is that people are no longer willing to adapt, change, compromise, and do what it takes in a marriage and make many, many life-altering mistakes dooming their marriages. That is why I love today's BOOK OF THE DAY, "23 Reasons Your Marriage or Relationship Sucks and How to Fix It" by Warner E Buxton. His insight as a counselor comes through, and this book should not be missed. Order your copy today!
23 Reason Your Marriage or Relationship Sucks(And How To Fix It) is a guide to twenty-three reasons that I have seen, heard, and been guilty of in my own marriage, my tenure as a marriage counselor, and from listening to friends and family who have challenges in their relationships or marriages. This is not an exhaustive list, but this is a list of issues you identify and process with your partner are tools that you can use to take your relationship to another level, whether that's from "sucky" to "not sucky" or from "good" to "great."
Warner E. Buxton, LPC-S, NCC, is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Marriage and Family Therapist who currently works as the Director of Chemical Dependency& Drug Addiction at a community mental health institution in his home of Vicksburg, MS. A graduate of Mississippi College and Alcorn State University, Mr. Buxton has also studied at Amridge University under in their Doctoral studies in Marriage and Family Therapy. Warner spends his free time with his wife, Camille, of 24yrs, in Vicksburg, MS. They have three children, Emani, Warner Jr., and Brandon.