Thursday, February 24, 2022

IN A HURRICANE OF VIOLENCE: Fleeing the Storm of Domestic Abuse by Nika Smith

 

Dear Readers:

Living in fear and in a domestic violence situation is unfathomable. It shouldn't happen, but it does; and when it does, it impacts not only the adults but also the children in the situation. Needless to say, no one should ever stay in an abusive situation; however, many do because they feel helpless and believe they are better off staying. Today's BOOK OF THE DAY, "In a Hurricane of Violence: Fleeing the Storm of Domestic Abuse," by Nika Smith, is a true story of how she escaped, along with her children, from an abusive situation. It gives hope and encouragement for others and I highly recommend it. Order your copy today!

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IN A HURRICANE OF VIOLENCE: Fleeing the Storm of Domestic Abuse

A true story of one mother’s desperate journey to save her children and herself from a brutal abuser and a corrupt system.

The average life of two young boys quickly turns into a nightmare at the hands of their father. Their mother—isolated, abused, and debased by her husband—begins a long and difficult journey to escape the storm of violence and manipulation. Their escape is fraught with peril and includes both real-life villains and true heroes. Eventually, they flee their formerly communistic country for England, and it is there that they truly begin to experience freedom and safety.

In a Hurricane of Violence is part memoir and part self-help book. Whether readers are caught in their own storms of violence or want to help someone else escape abuse or simply want to understand the mechanism of domestic violence, this book is for everyone. The story of Nika and her children unfolds in a dramatic, heart-wrenching tale that one wishes was fiction, but the underlying strength of this small family will pull the reader from the darkest moments. After each chapter, a retrospective is included to help readers understand how domestic violence ensnares its victims and how to find the path to true freedom and recovery.

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Product Details

  • Publisher: ‎ Nika Smith (4 Oct. 2018)
  • Language: ‎ English
  • Paperback: ‎ 471 pages
  • ISBN-10: ‎ 1999848012
  • ISBN-13: ‎ 978-1999848019
  • Dimensions: ‎ 15.24 x 2.72 x 22.86 cm

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Top review from United Kingdom

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 17 October 2019
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Top reviews from other countries

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5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful Read
Reviewed in Australia on 6 July 2019
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Kenneth Churchill
5.0 out of 5 stars In England help is available to victims of violence and abuse.
Reviewed in the United States on 17 March 2019
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REVIEW 16th MARCH 2019

In a HURRICANE of VIOLENCE by NIka Smith

This amazing true story gives insight to someone who suffered two decades of violence, abuse, and corrupt authorities in a European country and how she dealt with this horrific experience.

After reading the prologue I nearly put the book down because the father’s abuse of his two year old son seriously distressed me. The knowledge ( page 4 ) that she and her two sons relocated to England and survived this nightmare allowed me to read on.

Logically set out this book is a brutally honest portrayal of her twenty-year nightmare. Each chapter is followed by her ‘Retrospective’ when she discusses her conclusions about abuse, how to help children or herself, the mechanisms of abuse, common tactics of abusers, and differences in government approaches to abuse in England and her country of birth.

This book is proof that a mother’s love and devoting does not have any boundaries. Quote page 403, “I was eager to accept my prison sentence in return for my children’s freedom.”

It makes sense that this book should be read by parents, care and school staff, police, judiciary personnel, and all members of Parliament.

I agree with the author's quote, “For those whom the hurricane of violence has already swept through. I offer this book as a guide to show the possible path through the storm that is part of your life.

Ken Churchill
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
I met my ex-husband, Adam, for the first time when I was a student. Although our short friendship was full of confusing situations – very nice moments and strangely odd ones – it quickly turned into a romantic one. Over the next years there were just more and more puzzling events brewing, e.g Adam would often congratulate me (induced me feeling how attentive he was) while causing me pain by squeezing my fingers. At the same time, he would brainwash me, e.g. telling me that I was too sensitive to pain. Now, in retrospect, I can see that such behavior was one of the big red flags telling me that he was an abuser.
After 5 years, I fell for one more of his tricks, I believed him that moving with him into a remote part of the country would make him happy, not realizing that I would become locked up in his realm of physical and psychological abuse. When my son was two years old, I realized that we were in the same boat: Adam started beating him so long that sometimes my son would fall unconscious. At the same time, the second child was on the way.
Not to be surprised, my two children could not develop normally and were labeled as mentally ill children. Nothing helped: divorce, therapy for children, medications, accommodating them into different institutions. Nothing cured the damage that Adam kept inflicting them on the regular contacts/visitations that were enforced by authorities.
When my children were 10 and 8 everything has changed just in a matter of a day. We fled to England. Then seemingly foreign country became our home county - English police and court offered us a life free from abuse! Not totally free – although ten years passed since escaping our primary country, Adam and his supporters still try to get to us.
My children, once labeled as mentally ill, turned out to be normal guys. Moreover, they are successful in their studies and are growing up into independent, mature and helpful adults: the murky days of ongoing suspense and suffering have been replaced with days of hope, joy, creativity, plans for our future...and this is the life that I wish everyone would have, particularity those who are suffering doom and gloom of domestic abuse as we once did. Nobody needs to suffer abuse.
Note: just a little bit of knowledge about the characteristic of abusers and the mechanism of abuse would have prevented me from pushing my children into the hands of the abuser. That is what is the book about.