ABOUT THE BOOK
This program is valuable because it evolved and was tested over a period of twenty-two years of clinical experience with hundreds of men who felt that they had lost their edge but now wanted to be Awesome Again. After my breakdown, I went to many therapists, but it was not until I remembered and started working with the Seven Steps that my life started changing for the better.
The program has five parts:
1. A self-assessment to know where you are at on the Awesomeness Scale.
2. The philosophy, therapeutics, and science of awesomeness, so you know that you CAN change.
3. The Seven Steps to becoming Awesome Again.
4. The routines of Awesomeness, a powerful program to keep the positive changes going forward and to discover your purpose in life.
5. The guided meditations in your personal portal used to install the Seven Steps to Awesomeness into your subconscious mind.
The Seven Steps are:
1. Talk it out.
2. Quit all toxic substances.
3. Sleep well.
4. Mind your health.
5. Release negativity.
6. Upgrade yourself.
7. Contemplate your life.
People tell me that is magic in these steps, as presented here, for as you work on each step on your journey to becoming Awesome Again, you discover other values, strengths, and a peaceful power within you that will transform your life into what it is meant to be.
Flavio Ballerini, Ph.D.
Seven Simple Steps For a Man to Regain His Vitality
Philosophy of Therapy: An Inquiry Into The Reasons And Beliefs For Therapists To Do What They Do As They Do It
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Tell your readers a little about yourself, where you grew up, where you live now, where you went to school etc. Let them get to know the personal you.
I was born in Sao Paulo, Brazil in 1966. My family moved to Edina, Minnesota, when I was sixteen I worked as a design engineer, then as a scientist and as a professor of engineering. Most of my research was in the area of cardiovascular mechanics, which led me to hypnotherapy because of the mind/body connection. Later, I attended medical school. I have four daughters, from twenty-five to two. I now live in Pembroke Pines, just north of Miami, Florida.
What inspired you to write this book?
This program evolved out of the need to help men at the office more effectively. Then I had my own breakdown, a near-death experience, and catharsis that lasted many months. I went to many therapists looking for a way out of the pain until I remembered the notes that became this book. Once I realized that a structured program such as this was working for me, I wrote the book in twenty-five days.
Where did you get the inspiration for your book’s cover?
Ancient Egyptians saluted the Sun in the morning as a way of celebrating life itself. For some reason, since I started writing this book, I could see the cover concept in my mind. I wrote a description of it to a cover designer who was able to capture it precisely.
Who has been the most significant influence on you personally and as a writer?
Besides awesome parents, I also had two mentors on the spiritual path who became parental figures to me, in a way. I studied mystical philosophy with professor Santiago Aranegui, whose school I inherited. I also studied with Ana Luiza Borjas, a nun from the Marianita’s order for many years. Without a doubt, these two people influenced my entire life the most. As a writer, I am very fond of Richard Bach; I think in many ways, he is my writing hero.
What were your struggles or obstacles you had to overcome to get this book written?
Following a near-death experience in December of 2018, my relationship with life itself broke down so much that I often questioned whether I had actually ‘come back.’ I am still dealing with PTSD and depression but getting better each day. As I was writing this book, I cried more than I thought someone could cry. I experienced waves of panic and doom and gloom at least once a day, but I kept working with the Steps in the program, and the project kept advancing. Writing the manuscript was not difficult, except for “my story,” which I kept rewriting over and over. Once the manuscript was completed, again, I stalled a little and delayed the publication, but still, the Steps in the program kept me going forward.
Who is your target audience, and why?
This book was written for men over forty who want to become awesome again, who want to regain their vitality. We have found that many women who have a man in their lives who feel that they lost their edge can be of immense help to them by reading this book and understanding the program.
I feel that this book fills a huge gap in the mind/body/spirit space, the holistic space when it comes to transforming one’s life. Over the years, men came to see me desperate with a lack of answers and coherent understanding of what was happening to them, and also on how to change. This book covers every angle, including critical scientific ideas such as epigenetics and neuroplasticity, that will help the reader see that he CAN change his life.
If you were going to give one reason for anyone looking at your book to read, why should they buy it?
The book is written as though you and I are in a therapeutic relationship. I describe complex ideas in simple terms and show you, step by step several things:
1. Where you are really at
2. Enough philosophy, therapeutics, and science for you to know that you can change
3. The actual steps to change your life
4. How to build routines that keep on producing great results
5. How to find your purpose in life
And we complement it all with several guided meditations to install the seven steps to awesomeness in your subconscious mind.
Throughout the book, you will find encouraging words that will keep you reading and succeeding.
What do you consider your greatest success in life?
Having the opportunity to know my four daughters is a huge blessing to me. I also had the opportunity to serve some people as a hypnotherapist and coach through 40,000 sessions and over 300 exorcisms. The work we did at that little office for 22 years is not common, and I am happy I had that opportunity.
Everyone has life lessons to learn, tell your readers one or two of yours, and how they make you the person you are today.
One of the toughest lessons I learned since the NDE was that I am not a good person. I am glad I finally learned that lesson. Good and bad are terms relative to one another. For years I did not know that behind my thought of being good there was a judgment that some others were bad. I am glad I learned that lesson, for I no longer think of anyone as bad.
Another lesson I learned is to balance the heart and mind. I lived all of my life with not much regard for the logic of life; I did as it felt right in my heart. For the most part, I lived an awesome life as a result of this abandon, but the end of my second marriage taught me that deep love and great intentions are not enough in some cases.
What one unique thing sets you apart from other writers in your genre?
I bring a great deal of theoretical and practical knowledge of philosophy, therapeutics, and science to this book. I write in simple terms, and I put my heart into the book so readers can actually change their lives into the awesome life they are meant to live.
Tell us about your new book that you published in December 2019.
Tell us about your new book that you published in December 2019.
The Philosophy of Therapy is a critical inquiry into the reasons and beliefs for therapists of all modalities to do what they do, as they do it. This work was conceived as an invitation for therapists and philosophers to dialogue about the nature of therapy, and the justifications used not only in the practice of therapy, but also in the formation of new therapists.
We surmise that as the world becomes more complex, both the population and the proportion of the population seeking a better quality of life increases. This exponential increase in the number of people seeking deeper meaning for their lives makes it necessary for more therapists than ever to be available to serve the public.
I believe that only the application of the philosophical method of inquiry will generate the novel forms of therapies required in the new millennium, and the massive number of therapists likely to be needed.
The Philosophy of Therapy is now in its third edition, with a revised text and a new section on therapy added. In your personal portal at www.flaviolife.com/pot we ask that you make your philosophical contributions to the philosophy of therapy. Thank you.
Tell your readers anything else you want to share.
I have worked as a hypnotherapist and coach for 23 years. Nothing makes me sadder than hearing a client say that they have been told they cannot change something, that this is just the way they are. This is one reason I explain a bit about epigenetics and neuplasticity in this book, so you will know that you can change. Something else that still amazes me is how simple some changes are when we use hypnosis to access the unconscious motivations behind a behavior or a feeling.