Relationships take work! Let me repeat, relationships take lots of work. Trust me, I've been married for 37 years and not a day goes by that I don't thank my lucky stars and God for the wonderful man who I married. We get asked all the time how we have lasted so long, especially when people discover that we eloped on our third date, and now have three children, and seven grandchildren. Today's author interview is very special. Author K.E. Martin, and his book, "Success or Failure in Your Relationship: Four Basic Principles Needed if you Want a Lifetime Partner," is perfect for all couples, married or thinking about getting married. It is a must-read in my book. First take a look at the book, and then meet the author.
Success or Failure in Your Relationship: Four Basic Principles Needed IF You Want a Lifetime Partner
With over twenty years of married-life experience, I will answer the following key questions: How do couples stay together? And why do they fall apart? I’ve written about the four most important concepts that make a relationship work. Many wonder what exactly is wrong with their relationship, and others can’t figure out why it’s not working for them. There are also those who are not in a relationship, but they desire a lifetime partner. Finding someone is a different matter. Finding the right person and having the relationship you want are the most important personal and emotional areas that are the building blocks for lifelong happiness.
· Item Weight: 3.02 ounces
· Paperback: 75 pages
· ISBN-10: 1630890162
· ISBN-13: 978-1630890162
· Product Dimensions: 5 x 0.17 x 8 inches
· Publisher: JonRose Publishing, LLC (October 9, 2020)
· Language: English
Tell your readers a little about yourself, where you grew up, where you live now, where you went to school etc. Let them get to know the personal you.
I’m from NJ - lived here my entire life but grew up in Ocean Township, Monmouth County. I moved to Mercer County at the end of the 1990s after finishing up Graduate School at Monmouth University, where I earned my MBA. I was working at Lockheed Martin in Pennsylvania at the time and want to live closer to work. That’s when I bought my first townhouse, then met my wife. I put her through college in NYC. After that, she started working in NYC. After nine years together, we decided to have a family. We have two beautiful children - a boy and girl.
What inspired you to author this book?
My parents broke up in the mid-1970s when I was a teenager. I saw what both my mother and father went through with their individual dating; I thought of my father and his situation, which was a lot of inspiration. I have three siblings, two of which I write about as well. Through the years, I’ve seen many, many marriages and divorces, through my own family, plus lots of friends, and various relatives, and acquaintances.
I took a serious look at my own marriage, and really had to figure out what was good and bad about it and why. It was during this thought process that I became inspired. It wasn’t planned at all, but I knew that I had some very good information. I thought this information could be helpful to others. I just went with my inspiration and started writing.
Where did you get the inspiration for your book’s cover?
I had several artists submit concepts of cover art. Then I did some marketing research and got the opinion of a small group of people. Putting the puzzle pieces together to represent the four principles was immediately liked by everyone. I had to have the background cover adjusted to capture what most of the group liked, but I had very good feedback beyond that.
Who has been the most significant influence on you personally and as a writer?
I would have to say my father was a big influence for a good part of my life, both positive and negative. I say it that way because I had always been close to him growing up and well into adulthood. Not as close as my older brother, but we were close. In later years, his life decisions that he was making and the family not understand many times are where the negative influence comes in. These would be what I considered very bad decisions that I would do the complete opposite of his part and decisions. That, in a sense, was also part of my influence for writing the book. I feature several of what I consider his wrong decisions in it. Whether anyone’s decisions are right or wrong is always subjective, but I certainly wouldn’t have followed is path as he did things later in life.
What were your struggles or obstacles you had to overcome to get this book written?
Writing any book requires time and thought processes. I originally wrote an outline to cover the four principles. Then I asked for some opinions on it. I was told I had a good start but needed to make it more interesting and readable. Well, I certainly have plenty of life stories to share, but I wanted the book to read well, instead of just telling stories. So I had to write each story out, but with a specific point to make, otherwise, it wouldn’t make sense. So getting that information into the book, where it would make sense to the reader, took some time.
Tell your readers about your book.
I was inspired to write this book to focus on the basic principles that any relationship needs. These four principles came to me as I had the concept flowing in my head. I thought this information was too good to keep to myself. It really focuses on what we all need to have for a very happy life with that special someone. I wrote this so the reader would have a better understanding of relationships, a better understanding of what really needs to be understood by each person who wants that life long partner.
Who is your target audience, and why?
Those that are in a relationship or are looking for that relationship that will last, whether young or middle-aged or older. I’ve seen many, many relationships crumble for various reasons. I’ve seen many long-lasting ones. Most individuals never look at the complete picture. Never understand what is right or wrong with their relationship. They will know if they’re happy or not, but many times can’t quite put their finger on it. Well, I answer the questions of what’s needed in this book.
What do you consider your greatest success in life?
My two children.
What one unique thing sets you apart from other writers in your genre?
I’m delivering information that no one else has. I’m bringing the reader specific principles that are solid, and no one else has written about. Sure, you may have heard of them here and there, in separate situations or dialogue, but I put them together for you in one easy to read book.