Sunday, September 6, 2020

An Introvert's Guide to World Domination: Become a High Level Networker and Upgrade Your Life

I have a wonderful author I am introducing to you today. Meet Nick Shelton, author of "An Introvert's Guide to World Domination: Become a High Level Networker and Upgrade Your Life."  Sounds interesting, doesn't it?  Take a look and enjoy learning about Nick and his book.


An Introvert's Guide to World Domination: Become a High Level Networker and Upgrade Your Life Paperback – September 2, 2020

by Nick Shelton  (Author)

Imagine you’ve just been invited to a high-level event. The room is filled with fascinating people, and you know you want to be in their orbit. The problem is, you have no idea how to get there. So instead, you find the nearest chair and stay put for the next two hours.

If you’re introverted, shy, or socially awkward, this scenario probably feels familiar.

Social discomfort shouldn’t stop you from making connections, succeeding in business, or upgrading your life and lifestyle. An Introvert’s Guide to World Domination will teach you how to do this, and navigate social events with ease.

By breaking the process down into bite-sized steps, Nick Shelton offers practical, reliable strategies for forming lasting connections with others. You will improve your confidence, strengthen your relationships, and gain access to people and opportunities you’ve never had before.

Shelton speaks from firsthand experience. After a lifetime of shyness, he’s ditched the lonely chair and made introversion his greatest strength. Now, you can too.

Tell your readers a little about yourself, where you grew up, where you live now, where you went to school etc. Let them get to know the personal you.

Sure, I was born in Texas but grew up in Colorado and was extremely shy and introverted.  My family moved to Colorado from Texas when I was in the second grade and I started a new school. Being as shy as I was, I wasn’t talking so for some reason the teachers thought I was deaf and put me in the hearing impaired kid class.  I don’t know why, I guess they didn’t know any better at the time.  But it was actually pretty cool.

The fun ended about a week into it when my mom learned about it and explained to the teachers that I was not deaf, I was simply very shy and they put me back in “general population,” yes, I used that prison term because that’s what it felt like being back in that mob of kids.  As you can imagine, it sucked.  That was the start of a long battle of social awkwardness and shyness.

Middle school and high school I had trouble fitting in and trouble talking to girls naturally. When I got out of high school, I figured if I could make some money, it would solve everything. I became a commodity futures trader and was able to make quite a bit of money fairly quickly. But money didn’t help my social situation.  I was the same guy, I just had nicer stuff.

Then I tried alcohol which worked a little bit but then you have to be drinking all the time and that comes with its own problems such as getting a reputation as a drunk dude.

I wanted to upgrade my life. I knew I could be better.  I was tired of living in the shadows.  I was tired of not being seen, heard, invited and included.  Most of all I was tired of people underestimating me. 

I had to find a way out.

You’ve heard the sayings, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

“Your network is your net-worth. You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time around so choose wisely”

Ok so…

Where do you find these five people?  When you find them, how do YOU get there and when you get there, how do you actually connect with them?

I read the books and took the courses about networking and small talk.  NONE of them worked for me.  They weren’t designed for introverts, they were made for “normal” people, not people like us.
I was very depressed but I didn’t give up. I was determined to find a way.

I feel the “super power” of introverts is the power of observation. I started using this super power and started going out, out on the town by myself.  I’d just sit and observe.  I’d watch and study social interactions and dynamics between people.  Taking what I learned, I put together a system for step by step socializing and networking techniques specifically for us introverts.

I applied it to myself and was able to build a very strong, close, high level, international network of friends, colleagues and associates which allows me to be able to do a lot of things most people don’t get to do.

I often get invited to high-end, exclusive events by and with like-minded people that I enjoy being around who enjoy being around me.  And not just big events, small intimate parties, gatherings and experiences that I previously would not have even known existed or would not have been invited to. In addition to that I get access to investments and opportunities that I would not have been able to have before as well.

So, I was able to network an entirely new life, a better life.  A life where I am known, seen, included and respected.  It’s my dream life!

What inspired you to author this book?

I wrote the book because I wanted to show that it is possible to be an introvert and be wildly successful in a world that’s built by and for extroverts without compromising your integrity or your energy…so without burning out. I want to show introverts a way to access their best life and upgrade their lives and lifestyles through communication and networking techniques specifically designed for people like us.

Introverts are NOT extroverts and shouldn’t have to try to become one or act like them in order to get ahead and have access to our best lives.

Where did you get the inspiration for your book’s cover?

I wanted something eye catching, plus I really like the color yellow.  I wanted something that stood out a bit that would let you know that good information was inside. So this is the cover I ended up choosing and I’m very happy with it.

Who has been the most significant influence on you personally and as a writer?

I love this question. The person who has had the most influence on my personality was a friend of mine who has since passed away. He was an old war veteran who would BBQ every Sunday and we would listen to music of the world, eat well, sip cocktails and tell stories of travel and adventure.  I learned so much from him and I miss him, especially on Sundays.  His influence also impacted me as a writer helping me have a much wider range of expression and letting me know it is ok to be vulnerable in my writing.

What were your struggles or obstacles you had to overcome to get this book written?

The main obstacle to write this book was simply sitting down and writing it.  As you can imagine, there are a lot of distractions that beg for my attention so it’s easy to get side tracked.  What I ended up doing was renting a hotel room about five miles up the street from where I live and did most of my writing there.  It was an easy way to cut out the distractions and focus on writing. 

Tell your readers about your book.

I wrote “An Introvert’s Guide to World Domination” in an easy to digest conversational style so the reader will feel as though they are sitting across the table from me. I made sure the book doesn’t have fluff or fillers and it is not based on theory.  It is streamlined and to the point so as not to waste your time and to give you what you need right now to get results right now. The techniques I teach within the pages are designed specifically with the needs of introverts in mind and based off of what has worked for me personally and my students in real life, allowing us to build strong, close knit networks where we are seen, heard, accepted and respected by people we care about who also care about us.  There is no faster way that I know of to upgrade your life and social status than to surround yourself with people who are high achievers that bring out the best in you whose successful habits you will pick up simply by being in the right places and connecting. All of this in a simple step by step format that can be followed without compromising your integrity or energy.

I cover, identifying obstacles that have been holding you back from communicating and connecting with others, Getting Known, Making Connections, Networking and Social Skills, High End Events, Workplace and Industry Networking, Maintaining Relationships and much more.

 Who is your target audience, and why?

My target audience is introverted, shy and socially awkward people who want to upgrade their lives.
This group of people (like myself) have been living in the shadows too long and have been invisible, unheard, unseen and underestimated.  They want lives that matter.  I know it is very difficult to find the tools to be able to guide people like us to our next step on the path to better ourselves.  Now that I’ve found the way, I’d like to help uplift this underserved and underappreciated section of our society.

What do you consider your greatest success in life?

My greatest success in life has been my ability to go from a severely depressed, awkward and shy guy living an invisible life, to being able to make Real connections, build Real relationships, and upgrade my live along all lines without compromising myself. And then successfully teaching others how to do the same.  I absolutely love it!

What one unique thing sets you apart from other writers in your genre?

I’d say the one thing that sets me apart from other writers in my genre is my writing style.  I believe my writing style is very easy to read and digest while also giving the reader a glimpse into my thought processes, making them feel comfortable and understood.  I’m very proud of that.